Hey everyone, 

There’s something I need to say—and I wish I didn’t have to. I never planned to speak publicly about what’s been happening behind the scenes. But with everything that’s been said, I’ve felt cornered into offering some context—not because I want to, but because I know there are people who deserve some clarity but I am also trying to balance what people want to know with my very real personal safety needs and I hope for a little grace at this time. Let’s hope this doesn’t create a further unsafe situation for me. 

What I can say is that the attention on our events contributed to putting me in a situation that felt incredibly unsafe. It led to people showing up in my life in a way that crossed so many lines. 

I found myself in an extremely unsafe situation recently. I’m still trying to make sense of it all. It’s not something I ever thought I’d go through, and it’s not something I want to talk about further. I won’t be naming names (and I don’t even know who they are really), and I won’t go into details—because for my safety, and for my mental health, I can’t. Please don’t ask me to. What happened was terrifying, and I’ve been left shaken, deeply affected, and needing space to heal.

Like I said, I’m still trying to make sense of it. But it became clear that eyes were on me, and I was being followed, harassed, and intimidated in a way that has left me a bit broken. 

I don’t know who these people are and frankly that isn’t important. 

It felt like something out of a movie. And no, this isn’t something you ever think will happen to you or you would believe was actually true if you heard someone you knew went thru this. 

That’s not drama or scene politics or any of the other things circulating—it’s trauma. And I’ve been living in a state of hyperarousal, hypervigilance and survival mode ever since.

As a solo femme founder, running this business has always been personal. I poured everything into this—from the first spark of an idea to the wild, beautiful moments we all shared together. I created these events to add something good to the world. That was always my intention: to bring joy, connection, freedom, safety, and community into people’s lives…. but it’s also been really tough and perhaps I went into this naively in hindsight. 

Behind the scenes, I’ve had to push through changing venues due to bullying, uncooperative competitor hosts, random last-minute changes… and still, I kept showing up. But this? This latest experience? I can’t keep showing up through this. There was a point where it became clear to me: I can’t continue to run events while feeling unsafe. I’m traumatised. That’s the truth.

The hardest part is that I didn’t want to stop. I love what we created. But after everything that’s happened, I was left with no other choice. I need to prioritise my safety and my healing. Taking sales down was the right thing to do while I navigated my way to deciding what the next best steps are, so everything went on pause and we now are moving forward.

So, effective immediately—I will be stepping away from NSFW Events. The business is being handed to someone I trust to drive this community forward, and new decisions will be made about its direction going forward. All systems were temporarily paused while I figured out next steps, but aside from this weekend’s Open Love event (which is now officially paused), all other events remain on and NSFW Events ticket sales shall recommence when the backend handover is complete. This weekend’s ticket holders will receive a credit that can be used towards any future event—including higher value tickets like couples passes. That’s in line with our existing terms, but we also want to honour the support you’ve given us.

This decision was not made lightly. In reality, I don’t feel it was much of a choice, I was forced into a corner, this move is a safety and wellbeing requirement. 

To the people who have supported me through this time—you know who you are—I genuinely would not have survived it without you. Thank you for holding me in the dark. I wouldn’t be able to face this alone. 

And to the wider community, I’m asking you please: respect my privacy, I just want to be safe and get back to some kind of normal. Don’t speculate. Don’t dig. Just know this was a decision I never wanted to make. But I had to, I was forced to.

From here, I have no further comments, the next update will be in the next week or so regarding who is taking over etc. 

Please remember, I created this to add something good to the world. I wanted to make space for freedom, connection, fun, expression, and community. That’s always been at the heart of it. That’s still the heart of it.

Ally X