TAKING A PAUSE

The past few months have been incredibly tough. The sense of feeling unsafe, the threat to Ally’s livelihood, and the fear of losing the community she’s worked so hard to build have all taken a serious toll. Everything has created a deeply hostile and emotionally draining environment for an already emotionally-battered Ally in need of love, support and R&R.

Stepping back felt like the only way to find some peace, especially as it became clear the harassment in the real world was linked directly to the brand. At the time, she didn’t have all the answers — who was behind it or why — but she knew something had to change.

She had planned to take a few quiet days to reflect, regroup, and communicate openly with the community about what comes next. But before she even had the chance, another attack unfolded — yet another attempt to twist the narrative to suit their agenda and discredit Ally. For a moment, she regretted saying no to the offer to buy.

This time, the same individual believed to be behind the fake Reddit accounts — fully aware of Ally’s situation — seized the opportunity to spin a fresh story to suit their agenda. According to them, the fact that Ally brought event dates forward and stopped ticket sales must mean she’s “running away with everyone’s money.” They know that’s not true.

Once community wide panic set in and the narrative had spread far and wide, in swooped the one obviously leading the charge with an offer to be Allys hero, save her from this mess with his “life line”. Ally felt she had no choice other than yes. 

In reality, Ally moved the event dates forward simply because it was the quickest way to shut down ticket sales responsibly, nothing sinister was taking place in the need to hit pause, other than what Ally has been subjected to here, nothing sinister was at play, Ally never got to have a fair say. She didn’t want to continue accepting money while the future of the events remained uncertain — whether that meant pausing, selling, or closing altogether. Despite what’s been implied, Eventbrite pays weekly in our case and only on delivered ticket sales. There is no lump sum sitting anywhere to “run off with.” In fact, the few hundred dollars still pending won’t even be released until after the event date. There was no benefit — only a genuine effort to do the right thing by the community during an unusual and difficult time.

HER PROMISED VENGENCE 

A month or so prior, in a one-on-one voice memo with Ally, this individual – the main person actioning the most recent smear campaign said:

• “Ally doesn’t belong here on the scene.”

• “Ally is a threat to the community.”

• “Ally is delusional.”

• “She needs to pay the price.”

• …and that she should “f@ck off” — while also emphasising they “wouldn’t stop” until they’d made their point.

  When Ally asked for clarification — specifically, what prompted the individual to say these words — her request was met with no response. Ally took these words as a direct threat— to destroy both her and the brand. This latest effort to control the narrative around the paused events felt, in her view, like that threat unfolding in real time, following months of deliberate misinformation spread both in person at events and online already by this individual.

These threats were triggered by a simple request: for the individual to stop posting false content about Ally and the brand on Instagram — especially after being told they would not be part of the next event. Instead of respecting that boundary, they twisted the story, despite Ally presenting them with receipts backing up the truth at play, they continued claiming they had chosen to walk away due to so-called “deceptive practices and so on.” That simply wasn’t true. The decision was made by Ally, due to repeated bullying — not just towards her, but also others within the team and broader scene which Ally has never shared publicly until now.

Their actions didn’t just sabotage the brand — they stole Ally’s chance to speak directly to her community, to explain the reasons for the pause, and to share what comes next on her own terms during a very emotional time. The community didn’t deserve that chaos — and Ally certainly didn’t deserve yet another wave of distress on top of what was already a complex and painful experience.

Ally always knew this woman had an ill-intentioned agenda. This wasn’t petty annoyance — it was deliberate. Long before things escalated, she would make targeted digs in person, calculated to undermine Ally in front of mutual friends and provoke a reaction. It worked. Over time, Ally became increasingly isolated from her core social circle — and that isolation created the perfect conditions for real-world harassment to go unchecked.

Once she was made vulnerable, it became all too easy for things as they are today to unfold. If this woman hadn’t been involved, the girls and Aly would’ve moved forward like we always had no doubt. And this collaboration of three wouldn’t have been able to cause such unchecked damage in Ally’s life. 

HIS TRUE COLOURS

Just last week, the central figure of this trio confronted Ally in a hostile outburst — yelling that her version of events wasn’t true, insisting only their narrative mattered, their version the only truth, not to be challenged. A narrative already spread online by another member of the group — one that, to the unsuspecting eye, seemed factual. It was passed along innocently by moderators and the community at large.

He fixated on irrelevant details — like ticket sales being paused, or not wanting people to know he had approached us with a business offer. He seemed more enraged by the idea that someone might find out she said “no” or he presented it as “a life line” than any real issue at hand. He brought up drama from weeks ago, completely dodging the point, and used the moment to unleash all of his anger on Ally. 

That’s when Ally realised with little doubt for the first time since this situation begun last year: this wasn’t a collection of random events. It was one orchestrated campaign — and it had actually been him all along. He was no longer some neutral party. He was acting like a scared child caught red-handed right at the finish line of a devious act. From that moment forward, Ally could barely get a word out without being cut off or shut down.

That man — who Ally now recognises as one of or maybe even the main ringleader of this assault on her life, and this community — revealed exactly who he is. It only took one phone call from him to make the others stop posting about Ally and NSFW Events in forums. That call proved what he’d been denying: he did have the power to stop or start all of it, at any moment. And yet he pretended otherwise, brushing it off as Ally’s “beef” with others.

Meanwhile, he knowingly allowed those women to tear down our brand, even while trying to buy it. We had to ask him to intervene. Why didn’t he act sooner? Why allow it at all if you were truly negotiating in good faith? That behaviour raised red flags for Ally. 

For the record: Ally has no “beef.” She simply wants the unprovoked bullying and character assassination from this small but loud trio to stop, they have no power over her. Ally has done no wrong, only defended herself at times. 

What followed in the last week or so was a barrage of verbal abuse and threats — all because Ally figured it out, the answers regarding solved all the other questions. And now, he didn’t know how to control the story anymore.

His rage hasn’t stopped. One of his most telling lines:

“You won’t extort me over this.”

But this is not extorting anyone — it’s surviving. And Ally’s speaking her truth. She’s never put herself out there like this in all her life. She’s not someone who shares this kind of pain publicly. But this? Ally can’t walk away from silently.

He can say what he wants — that Ally’s crazy, unstable… who knows what they’ll say next, and frankly she no longer cares  — as we do the final edits on this, we see another message pop up from him saying to Ally exactly that regarding this last piece that we uploaded, “you look crazy”.

But here’s the truth:

Ally has receipts.

Every move when it comes to Ally’s takedown. Ally started receipts on the other two long before him due to their malicious actions toward her in the past hence every one of their lies can be easily squashed, up until recently he didn’t even register on Ally’s threat radar. Since that red flag alert sounded, it’s all recorded, stored, and protected in multiple secure locations. Coming after Ally won’t erase the truth.

Everything spoken about, Ally can back up. And from here? We’ll let the process unfold in the right and just way, everyone should be treated innocently until then, even you. This is a matter to be handled legally – they get final say. He’ll have his say as well as his 50k retainer as he reminds Ally some days. And so will Ally, she’ll get her say.

ON RECEIPTS, LET’S TALK ABOUT GIFTS

Let’s clear something up.

When the leader of this trio first approached Ally — right around the time their associate launched an online defamation campaign — he offered what he called a “lifeline” to help her through the very mess they created. Part of that lifeline included a cash gift. He gave it knowing full well that Ally’s ability to earn had been wrecked and never stated if the sale didn’t go through that she would need to return it, it wasn’t a loan or the sale money but simply a show of good faith. 

Sales were paused so Ally could work out a way forward after a drawn out intimidation campaign, feeling unsafe to run events she had no choice. Only one event had officially been called off at that point, our Open Love –  all ticket holders were issued credits. But thanks to their smear campaign, panic spread throughout the community, with false claims that all events were cancelled and we were running off with money. That wasn’t true, she simply needed a few days to decide if the business would close, she would sell or she would just take a few month break and as we know, this pause was sabotaged by a smear campaign. 

After deciding to sell, this pause was drawn out as a result of later realising how all the harassment etc was tied to the request to buy the business by this very man and that she couldn’t give the business to someone who had done this and would need a new buyer. 

Weekly business income from ticketing platforms stopped dead without a replacement. Ally was left without a way to keep things running while navigating the fallout, she still has to pay for things like the website and hosting and keep the systems up and running. So yes — she accepted the gift. Not as a handout. Not as a favour. But as a replacement for the income that was lost because of their actions. And worse — he’s now threatening to publicly claim that she’s stolen this money, in an attempt to shame and pressure her into selling and handing things over. This isn’t about fairness or truth — it’s blackmail, plain and simple. Unlike Ally, who’s simply sharing her truth and story — whether you believe it or not — he’s using threats of public exposure as a weapon, not a resolution or to share his truth/ story. Ally is not giving it back. Not only because it was a gift – the money for the sale woud be paid once the contract was signed, but because the people demanding it back have deliberately and repeatedly damaged her ability to work, earn, and operate safely. 

That money was a temporary remedy in a crisis they helped create — and if they want to argue that, they can do so in court, this gift is evidence. You don’t get to tear someone down, sabotage their income… and then try to claw back your “generosity” when it no longer suits your narrative.

WHAT’S IN A SCENE NAME 

In our world — whether it’s the kink scene, the nightlife scene, or any other subculture where expression runs free — scene names aren’t just cute nicknames. They’re powerful. They’re protective. They’re personal. They’re like stripper names — and not by accident. Just like dancers, many of us live dual lives: one that’s bold, playful, sexy, and free — and one that navigates everyday work, family, and the vanilla world. Our scene names give us the freedom to exist in both without fear of judgment, exposure, or harm. They’re shields, and sometimes, lifelines.

Most women in this space use a scene name. It’s become a vital part of navigating the modern swinging and kink worlds — especially in the digital age. This lifestyle is still widely misunderstood, and many of us need privacy to explore our sexuality without fear of ridicule, damage to our income, or impact on our families. 

One of our core principles, as shown clearly on our website, is respecting scene names. This isn’t just policy. It’s survival. Just like you, Ally is part of this scene. She attends events. She enjoys this lifestyle. She’s not just “the person who runs things.” In fact, many of you have likely danced or played at the same events as her without even realising — because when she goes out, she goes as a punter. A guest. A person. And her close friends know not to introduce her as “Ally from [redacted]” because that’s not how she wants to be known in those spaces. That’s her privacy, and it’s respected — as it should be. But now, that boundary is being threatened. The original buyer in this situation — a man — has not only disrespected that boundary but is actively threatening to blast Ally’s legal name across the internet. Not because he needs to. Not because it serves any purpose. But because he wants to hurt, shame, and intimidate her. That’s who he is.

He knows her scene name. He knows that’s how she is known publicly — and yet he chooses not to use it. Instead, he wants to tear down her privacy and disregard the fact that outside of this world, she has family, friendships, and vanilla career paths that could be destroyed if people who don’t understand this lifestyle were to find out. And still — he doesn’t care.

That kind of behavior isn’t just mean-spirited. It’s dangerous. Especially for women, femmes, and queer folks whose safety depends on discretion. It’s a direct violation of the respect and trust this community is built on. And has always been a core principal as listed on our website.

Yes, around 50 or so of you might know her real name and respectfully still address her as Ally when it comes to the lifestyle. But Ally’s never wanted it online. Not because she’s hiding. Not because she’s ashamed. But because she deserves the same privacy that you do. Because Ally, too, has a vanilla life — one that could be impacted in very real, very painful ways by having the wrong parts of Allys world made public. So the next time someone acts like your scene name “doesn’t matter” or that it’s “just a game,” remember this: they’re either being deliberately harmful — or they’ve never had to worry about safety the way many of us do. 

Either way, that attitude has no place here. 

The Final Piece: Wrapping Up One Hell of a Jigsaw

We’d love to say this chapter is fully closed — but it’s not.

So for now, the full details of the declined offer will stay private and names withheld until court proceedings take place— unless the threats made to Ally are carried out. That includes any threatened attempt to smear her further through lifestyle channels (emails, social media, Reddit etc.) starting today, 8 May – through any fake profile or their own, or if the defamation from the other two picks back up. If they do this, Ally wont be responsible for them outing themselves, they will be making their identity obvious on their own.

Last time, it took just one phone call from him to stop the online troll and defamation attacks. If it starts again, Ally will have no choice but to further defend herself publicly against the apparent puppet master of this trio with further information, possibly including names. 

Please remember, this has been a situation lasting well over six months, taking place almost every single day so this is a super condensed version of Ally’s story, her voice and her revealing the complete picture was hard to put into words clearly but Ally felt it was important to have her say, after everything they’ve had a chance to say!

Thankfully, we have a second buyer lined up — and we’re now moving forward with them. They’ll introduce themselves in due time, nothing has changed and we are stoked to handing the reigns to a woman we trust, we’ve always been about the girls, and this gets to continue. 

So this may finally mark the end of a difficult chapter. And with any luck, we can all move forward — go back to talking about sexy, happy things, and laughing until our bellies hurt. And the exciting part, a little silver lining; Ally can look forward to joining you on the dance floor at an event. 

THE START OF SOMETHING NEW AND YOUR SAY

Ally’s never claimed to be perfect — and she never will. But one thing she’s always promised? To give her all. To create events that feel special. To run things with care and have fun along the way. To curate a crowd that’s vibrant, sexy, kind, respectful, fun — full of that good-egg energy we all love.

And she’s done her best to deliver on that every step of the way. 

For those asking: The events KRAVE and OPEN LOVE were officially cancelled. This decision was never one that involved or required input from any third party — especially not from someone who had recently left the team and had since issued threats toward Ally.
Or the other individual, who already received a formal defamation warning letter last year instructing them to cease all interference. They were also banned from attending our events and were blocked from all communication channels due to ongoing bullying and harassment.
Looking forward, Convent of Sin on July 5 is now back on sale. All previous ticket holders for the cancelled events have been offered credits, bonus credits/ extra free tickets, and/or full refunds.

These spaces weren’t just about fun or sexy vibes — they were about connection, community, and being uplifted. With a special focus on the experience of us solo girls at the heart of things.

But sometimes, doing good ruffles feathers.

Sometimes, it threatens the wrong people. Stirs pots you’d rather not stir, not knowing there were very real life-altering dangers there.

And that’s where you come in.

If you’ve seen or sensed something unfair — a pattern, a whisper, a moment that didn’t sit right — and felt too afraid to speak up, this is your chance. This is the safe space we’ve created for you to share.

Even the smallest insight might help. You don’t need to have the full picture. Just your truth. If nothing else, Ally appreciates every bit of connection and support shown right now.

You can remain anonymous if that feels safer — we respect that. Just know: anonymous info can be harder to act on or follow up. If you do feel okay leaving a name or contact, Ally promises you this:

Your identity will be protected at all costs.

Nothing will be shared identifying you without your full written consent.

You will be heard, not exposed.

This is about protecting the kind of community we all want to be part of.

So if you’ve seen something, say something. There’s a form to have your say via the button on this page.

For Ally.

For fairness.

For the culture we believe in.

For leaving others better than we found them.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for hearing Ally.

Thank you for being brave.

Thank you for caring.

xo

p.s. If you’d like to stay connected with Ally, you can do so here. Please don’t take it personally if she doesn’t accept straight away — or at all. After everything, she’s being cautious and will only accept those she recognises from her time managing our main socials or meeting people on the ground in the community